Resolving the inner conflict with the inner voice
We think too much, but we feel so little ~ Sir Charles Spencer Chaplin
We exist in such a complicated time-consuming world, where we run behind the ideology of being perfect at everything whilst losing perfection from inside, we run to listen and please other people whilst forgetting to listen and please ourselves, we try to find the meaning of life whilst losing the significance within ourselves.
Now ask yourself how many times have you stopped and taken a long deep breath?
We people have become so busy in our busy life’s, that we tend to ignore inner voices from ourselves. Inner voices, like depression, anxiety, matter of fact even hunger and thirst is ignored by most people. A study done by the University of Dundee resulted that approximately 35% of adults working tend to ignore hunger and thirst during their most prominent busy hours, which could lead to serious health hazards in the long term such.
Although, we are indeed blessed with angels on this floating rock in the middle space, who bug us with 30 calls and 50 messages reminding us to take a break, and grab a bite, who crack stupid jokes, to make us smile on a rough day, who grabs us by the shoulder and lift our spirits when we are in pain. Our loved ones, usually take an oath for being there for us no matter what!
But what happens they aren’t there for us when we need them the most?
Now, I’m not saying that your loved one is going to leave you one fine day, just imagine yourself in a scenario, where you aren’t having your day, where you need that person, and that person is nowhere to be heard. The person might genuinely be busy with some work, might’ve missed your calls and messages, or probably himself/herself be having a bad day. What do you do then? Give up? Stay in that cosy bubble and let your negative emotions crave you in? Certainly not!
I’m not saying that being dependent on someone is a wrong thing, being dependent on your loved one is a birthright, but you even need to learn how to be independent at times, there is no certainty on whether that person might be there for you always or not. Life happens, things don’t always go the way you want them to be.
In today’s day and age suicide rates have skyrocketed, especially after the COVID 19 pandemic, we’ve been on the verge of giving up their precious life’s when they don’t receive any type of support. Support is a great thing, and asking for help is crucial if you need it, asking for help is ‘not a sign of weakness. So, if you ever have
The feeling of suicide developing or going through a rough patch, and none of your loved ones can come to your help, do not hesitate to use the ‘suicide support hotlines’ (https://www.opencounseling.com/suicide-hotlines hotline supports for all countries).
Although, if you feel a bit under control, try resolving the matter from the inside:
Grab a huge glass of water or any thing you desire to eat:
Recent studies have shown that eating something you desire, would straight away release serotonin (the key hormone that stabilizes our mood, feelings of well-being, and happiness). (Your diet is a big exception here XD)
In one 2018 study of over 3,000 adults, those who drank more water had a lower risk of anxiety and depression than those who drank less water.
Try talking to yourself:
You could simply just talk to yourself, remind yourself that everything will be ok, remind yourself that you’re special and that without your presence the world would be missing out on a lot, if you don’t like speaking, you could pick up a journal and pen and start jotting down your thoughts whilst using positive affirmations.
Listen to Music or watch videos you desire:
From cute cat videos to blasting one direction songs on repeat, JUST DO IT! No one’s judging you, while listening to your favourite songs, try shaking yourself, while watching funny videos, try laughing as hard as you can. Music acts as a medium for processing emotions, trauma, and grief — but music can also be utilized as a regulating or calming agent for anxiety or dysregulation.
At last, remind yourself it’s just a bad day, not a bad life:
We all do have bad days, and we for sure will have more in the future, but the key thing to remember is that bad days don’t last as long as the happy ones. Try to visualize yourself living your dream, becoming the person you’ve always wanted to be. You’re never too far down.
Although, even after following these steps, you feel no better, do not hesitate even the slightest on reaching out for help, if your loved ones can’t be there, Suicide Hotlines are always open 24/7.
Life is a gift, celebrate it.